This is not another girl-power article. We’ve had lots of those, bemoaning how girls are discriminated against, and how, despite everything, the writer is proud of being a girl. Discrimination works both ways, and we’re not talking just about discrimination. Looking at the broader picture, depending on the place in general and the mindset of people, there exists biasness, even in the form of laws; pertaining to divorce, alimony, child support, etc. all that seemingly favor women. They work in both ways; bias and discrimination.
How many of us have, at one point or the other, wished to belong to the other sex? The grass is always greener on the other side, the cliché goes. We believe that certain characteristics should belong to a certain sex, and mould ourselves to fit into these characteristics. This is a product of times, lifestyles, circumstances and stereotypes. I’m not your average girly girl, and I didn’t realize for a long time, how many other people felt that they didn’t belong to the average stereotype. Rejecting your sex is perhaps, not so uncommon after all.

There are times in my life, when I wish I were a boy. There are a lucky few perhaps in Nepal, who have never faced any discrimination whatsoever, but we’d be hard-pressed to find them. In a country where people still wish for a male child, where giving birth to a daughter is still followed by “better luck next time” comments, gender bias is a way of life, and it will take many years and decades to completely eradicate this. Where girls are still supposed to safeguard their “virtue” like treasure, and where being a girl is a weakness. Even while proclaiming that they don’t care about gender anymore, well-meaning relatives still croak out platitudes “keti bhayera ta…” and so the list goes.

“People raise eyebrows when I say I listen to rock and metal. The scenario might have changed but I think girls are generalized more often than not.” -said one eighteen year old.
Famous Five – the children’s classic. Countless millions have grown up reading this. My favorite character: George, the brave little girl who happens to hate being a girl. And then there’s Anne, her sweet younger cousin, who proves that girls can be heroes too. But ultimately, stereotypes still exist; Anne is the shyer, domesticated one, the weaker one. But Enid Blyton was a product of her time after all.

Being a girl myself, I grew up thinking that yes, in Nepal at least, boys had it better. So it came as a surprise one day, when one of my friends proclaimed “You girls have it so much better. I wish I were a girl”. This got me thinking- In a place where guys are generally allowed more freedom and more leeway, why would any male want to exchange places?
“People are nicer to girls. You get favors done for you.” another guy said.

I thought about it, and realized that this was true. It’s a stereotype that guys have to be naturally chivalrous. You can’t hit a girl. No matter what she says, or what she does, this is the golden rule. Guys have to pay on dates- thats usually the norm. Men can’t wear flashy clothes, or listen to Justin Bieber. They can’t cry while watching movies, and they certainly cannot read Twilight.

There are feminist groups that attack men simply for belonging to the other sex. It has come to the point that women can wear their sex like a shield, or a medal, citing “discrimination” where ever they go. But then again, we do have rowdy men, public ragging, wolf whistles and cat calls. It comes to the point when everything is about gender. But then again, nothing is.